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Affairs &
Infidelity
"The Three Symptoms of Affair Withdrawal"
by Dr. Frank Gunzburg
Baltimore Maryland When you end the affair, you might get a feeling
of “withdrawal.” As I stated above, being in an affair is a lot like
being addicted to a drug. This means that when you end the affair
you will have to go through the uncomfortable experience of
withdrawal before you can be “clean” again.
There are three major emotional symptoms of affair withdrawal:
anger, anxiety, and depression. Why you might have these emotions
should be fairly self-explanatory at this point.
You can expect to have intense withdrawal symptoms for about three
weeks. You may continue to feel some symptoms for up to six months,
but they should gradually diminish in intensity and frequency over
this time period.
During this time, you are in a vulnerable position. Like an addict,
you might be tempted to use your favorite drug again. You might be
tempted to contact your lover again to help calm the force of your
withdrawal symptoms.
Doing so is a little bit like a heroin addict in recovery who says
they are “just going to do a little hit to make the pain go away.”
This is clearly a terrible idea. If you do this, it is likely you
will be tempted to start using again, end up back in the affair, and
undo all the difficult work you have done up to this point.
Do not, I repeat, do not¸ attempt to contact your lover. This will
destroy your relationship.
Instead, reinvest in repairing your relationship. This is liable to
be difficult as well, particularly if you have just informed your
partner about the affair. If you are talking to your partner at all,
it is likely that your communication is negative and difficult. It
is unlikely that you will be getting a great deal of positive
feedback from your partner at this point and this is bound to make
you feel emotionally disconnected. This could worsen your withdrawal
symptoms.
If you feel that you have had your needs met in this affair in a way
that they haven’t been met in your relationship, there is going to
be a time when you need to address those problems with your partner.
That time isn’t now. I say this here to help you have hope that you
can get what you need out of your relationship and not feel
compelled to continue going outside it to fulfill those needs.
Remember that you are going through this painful time for a reason:
you want to heal your relationship. You can look at this difficult
period as a necessary step to straightening out the mess you have
made of your relationship. Like an addict, there may be a period of
time in which you suffer. Going through that is the first step to
putting your life back on the right course.
Keep in mind that when you maintain the course of recovery through
this rough period, the reward is a relationship that is better than
you ever dreamed. Use the strategies you have learned up to this
point to overcome your negative feelings, and hang tight in your
determination to rebuild your relationship. Your efforts will pay
off.
None of this will be easy. You will likely face quite a lot of
emotional difficulty when you end the affair. Nonetheless, it is
necessary to face this pain in order to restore your relationship.
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Dr. Frank Gunzburg is a
licensed counselor in Maryland and has been specializing is
helping couples restore their marriage for over 30 years. He
is also the author of How to Survive an Affair, a
step-by-step healing system that can help a couple repair
their relationship after it has been shattered from an
affair.
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This article was used by permission from How to Survive An
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