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"Cheating Spouse: Is Spying an Invasion of Privacy?"
by Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach

My, how the cheating spouse cries foul when he/she discovers you are spying. Outrage can be intense: "How dare you!! I never thought you would stoop to that! How could you!? How can there be trust in this relationship if you do that? This is none of your business; I don't spy and go behind your back! Now you know why I want to pull away from you. How could I love anyone that would do something like that to me?"

On and on. Cheating husbands and cheating wives usually will not admit the duplicity of their clandestine behavior. But you are made out to be the villain if you use detective work to discover the truth. It doesn't make sense, but then again not much about infidelity borders close to sanity.

Are you a morally corrupt duplicitous character hell bent on destroying the integrity of a relationship through spying? No, of course not. The integrity of the relationship has been destroyed through the extramarital affair.

The affair shattered the promises and mocked the vows that the two of you made. You saw clearly the signs of a cheating spouse. The affair invaded the domain of your marriage and crumbled its protective boundaries.

The marital infidelity broke the contract of the marriage; it was the act of betrayal. Spying does not damage the marriage. It is an attempt to seek the truth and resolve the pain and deception. Spying is often used to grasp the reality of the situation. It's intent is to find the truth.

Only the truth can provide a foundation from which to begin resolving the hurt, pain and forging a direction for the marriage and enable each person in the marriage to attain health and sanity.

Avoid the Killer Mistakes

saying "I love you"
using Dr. Laura/Bible
suggesting joint counseling
saying "I've changed"
and more...

That prolong the affair and your misery

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