"Secrets to Healing
after Leaving a Painful Relationship!
by Susie and Otto Collins
It very easy to get into a relationship. But, it's
usually very difficult to get out of one that no longer serves you and
begin the healing process.
It seems that everywhere you look, many long-standing
relationships and /or marriages are dissolving.
In this week's article we thought we'd give some suggestions to
help those of you who are still going through the healing process.
Our suggestions are :
1) To never look at a relationship (or anything else)
that didn't work out as a failure.
Robert Schuller, the famous TV evangelist and founder of the world famous
Crystal Cathedral said in his book "Success is never ending Failure
is never final" --"Failure
doesn't mean you're finished, it does mean you have a chance." He
also said, "Failure doesn't mean God has abandoned you...it does mean
God has a better idea."
Often it's the seed of a current or past "failure"
that fuels you to the very success that you've always dreamed of.
2) Turn from the past and look toward the
future...YOUR future. As Tony Robbins says "Your past does not equal
your future. Sometimes after a separation, we find ourselves dwelling in
the past, our thoughts consumed with that other person. You will begin to
heal when you start thinking and writing about what you want for your
3) Know and understand that there are no
"accidents" and that everything happens in divine order. Every
thought, every moment, every action, every relationship and every event
that happens in your life, happens to propel you toward your next phase of
learning and personal growth.
4) Acknowledge, without blame, your part in the
breakup of the relationship. When it doesn't work out, then two people
have to share equally in the responsibility of the breakup. No matter who
appears to be at fault.
5) Learn from the patterns of the past. Stay
conscious in all your relationships so that you won't repeat the same
6) Give thanks for the lessons that you learned in
that relationship. Honor that person as a teacher, here to help you on
Susie and Otto Collins are married, life partners who are
Relationship and Life Success Coaches, and authors of several books
on relationships, including "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" "No
More Jealousy" "Creating Relationship Trust" "Communication Magic"
and "Attracting Your Perfect Partner." In addition to having a great
relationship, they regularly write, speak and conduct seminars on
love, relationships and personal growth. To read more free articles
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