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"Romantic Things to Do to Keep Your Relationship Vibrant,
Alive and Exciting"
                  by Susie and Otto Collins

 
It's often been said that it's the little things in life that make
all the difference.
 
No where is this truer than when it comes to keeping your
relationship alive, growing and vibrant.
 
Romance can be one of those things that keeps a
relationship fresh and exciting. 
 
We all have different ideas of what "romance" and "being
romantic" means.  There can be a lot of unmet expectations,
frustrations and feelings of failure around this idea.
 
We don't think it has to be this way.
 
What being romantic means to us is that we are continuously
discovering ways to laugh, love and connect with each other
and deepen our intimacy all the time. 
 
To us, romance is what we do on a moment-by-moment and
day-by-day basis to make our relationship stronger and more
passionate. Being romantic is a way of showing our deep love
for each other.
 
Of all the romantic things to do, we've found that the small
things make the biggest difference.  Here's an example of
what happened the other night...
 
Susie went camping for one night with her extended family
and since Otto doesn't like "roughing" it, he stayed home.
As she snuggled down in her tent with her sister, Susie
called Otto on her cell phone to say goodnight. She told
him that she loved him and missed him.
 
Although a phone call is a pretty normal thing to do
between people who truly care about one another when
they are apart, it can be a way to connect and rekindle
love in a romantic way like we did.
 
Romantic things to do for each other are romantic only when
they create the desired effect within the other person and
within the relationship.  Romance will only create the desired
effect when it is not done out of obligation or because it is
expected.
 
So what are the best romantic things to do to make your
relationship more alive?
 
That depends on you and your partner because everyone
is different. Romance is certainly in the eye of the beholder!
 
To some people, a "no-brainer" romantic thing to do is to
send flowers.  You can't go wrong with flowers, right?
 
Wrong.
 
You can go wrong with flowers if there is little or no "heart"
in the gesture and if there's something else that the other
person is wanting. 
 
Susie's ex-husband often brought her flowers during their
30-year marriage. Although it truly was a wonderful gesture, 
what she really wanted more was to connect on a deeper
level with him.
 
With that being said, here are some ideas around the
notion of romance and being romantic...
 
1. Pay attention to what your partner likes. If he/she likes
surprises, surprise him/her.  If not, don't--even if you like
surprises.  Pay attention to your partner's favorite things
that they seldom indulge themselves in and then do those
things.  It might be something your partner wouldn't buy
or do for themselves like buy a cd of their favorite music.
 
2. A romantic gesture can be doing a very small thing.
It might be after the kids are in bed, getting a bowl of ice
cream and two spoons--then sharing it.  It might be putting
the kids to bed without being asked. It might be a hug or
a foot rub. For Susie, a romantic gesture is when Otto
lovingly puts his hand on the back of her neck.
 
3. Romance can be taking a trip down memory lane.
Visit where you went on your first date or some other place
that holds significance for the two of you. It's very romantic
for the two of us to visit the natural setting where we went
on our first date and where we got married.
 
4. We've heard people say that they are not romantic.
If you've never considered yourself to be romantic and
never really wanted to be but your partner would like
more "romance," you can begin by changing your thinking.
Instead of thinking that romance is something artificial
and outside yourself that you "do," you can begin thinking
that romance is merely ways of expressing your love that
your partner will receive and enjoy.
 
5.  What if you want more romance and your partner
doesn't seem to?  Be more romantic and loving yourself
in the way that your partner wants to be loved.  Start
with little ways and just see what happens.
 
Romance and being romantic are the things you do that
bring you closer together and keep the spark alive.
 
Being romantic and finding romantic things to do is
something that you or anyone can do. You just have to
open to more possibilities, have the desire create
special times with your partner or spouse and allow
the ideas to flow from love.

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Relationship coaches Susie and Otto Collins, authors
of "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" and "No More
Jealousy" are experts at helping people get more of the
love they really want.  Learn the 5 keys to a closer, more
loving relationship, click below for your free 5-part mini-course:
http://www.Collinspartners.com

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P.O. Box 14544
Columbus, Ohio 43214
(614) 459-8121

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