"Romantic Things to Do to Keep Your
Alive and Exciting"
by Susie and Otto Collins
It's often been said that it's the little
things in life that make
all the difference.
No where is this truer than when it comes to
relationship alive, growing and vibrant.
Romance can be one of those things that keeps
relationship fresh and exciting.
We all have different ideas of what "romance"
romantic" means. There can be a lot of unmet
frustrations and feelings of failure around
We don't think it has to be this way.
What being romantic means to us is that we
discovering ways to laugh, love and connect
with each other
and deepen our intimacy all the time.
To us, romance is what we do on a
day-by-day basis to make our relationship
stronger and more
passionate. Being romantic is a way of
showing our deep love
for each other.
Of all the romantic things to do, we've found
that the small
things make the biggest difference. Here's
an example of
what happened the other night...
Susie went camping for one night with her
and since Otto doesn't like "roughing" it, he
As she snuggled down in her tent with her
called Otto on her cell phone to say
goodnight. She told
him that she loved him and missed him.
Although a phone call is a pretty normal
thing to do
between people who truly care about one
they are apart, it can be a way to connect
love in a romantic way like we did.
Romantic things to do for each other are
romantic only when
they create the desired effect within the
other person and
within the relationship. Romance will only
create the desired
effect when it is not done out of obligation
or because it is
So what are the best romantic things to do to
relationship more alive?
That depends on you and your partner because
is different. Romance is certainly in the eye
of the beholder!
To some people, a "no-brainer" romantic thing
to do is to
send flowers. You can't go wrong with
You can go wrong with flowers if there is
little or no "heart"
in the gesture and if there's something else
that the other
person is wanting.
Susie's ex-husband often brought her flowers
30-year marriage. Although it truly was a
what she really wanted more was to connect on
level with him.
With that being said, here are some ideas
notion of romance and being romantic...
1. Pay attention to what your partner likes.
If he/she likes
surprises, surprise him/her. If not,
don't--even if you like
surprises. Pay attention to your partner's
that they seldom indulge themselves in and
then do those
things. It might be something your partner
or do for themselves like buy a cd of their
2. A romantic gesture can be doing a very
It might be after the kids are in bed,
getting a bowl of ice
cream and two spoons--then sharing it. It
might be putting
the kids to bed without being asked. It might
be a hug or
a foot rub. For Susie, a romantic gesture is
lovingly puts his hand on the back of her
3. Romance can be taking a trip down memory
Visit where you went on your first date or
some other place
that holds significance for the two of you.
It's very romantic
for the two of us to visit the natural
setting where we went
on our first date and where we got married.
4. We've heard people say that they are not
If you've never considered yourself to be
never really wanted to be but your partner
more "romance," you can begin by changing
Instead of thinking that romance is something
and outside yourself that you "do," you can
that romance is merely ways of expressing
your love that
your partner will receive and enjoy.
5. What if you want more romance and your
doesn't seem to? Be more romantic and loving
in the way that your partner wants to be
with little ways and just see what happens.
Romance and being romantic are the things you
bring you closer together and keep the spark
Being romantic and finding romantic things to
something that you or anyone can do. You just
open to more possibilities, have the desire
special times with your partner or spouse and
the ideas to flow from love.
Relationship coaches Susie and Otto
of "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" and "No More
Jealousy" are experts at helping people get more of the
love they really want. Learn the 5 keys to a closer, more
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